Every weekend, I draft a "to do" list. Every weekend, I put myself at the top of the list.
The "me" part of the list is where I prioritize the activities and opportunities to tend to myself, baby-step toward my goals, and experience my senses and perspective. I use the list to guard time to journal, take a walk outside, or read a good book.
One of my favorite me-tasks is "nap/do nothing." I give myself permission and something like credit for resting. "Do nothing" is actually a specific resting position where I lie on my back on the floor against my bed. I rest my calves on the bed, thighs perpendicular to the floor, back flat, arms stretched out on the floor, and a small pillow under my head. It's a little awkward at first! But, soon, I feel all my joints and muscles relax, as if I'm sinking into the floor. I remind myself to relax my face and jaw. My thoughts are the last bit to settle as my brain is busy with all the things I should be doing, remembering, or planning. Sometimes, it helps to imagine I'm floating on a gentle river. I feel the sun warming my front while I'm supported by cool water. All I can hear is the easy lapping of small waves.
I've organized my weekends with lists like this for a long time. (Here's a snapshot of the practice 11 years ago!) But I haven't always started the list with me. I concluded weekend after weekend with a clean and tidy house, a meal-plan, and laundry folded and put away, but a worn out and irritated me. Sometimes, those weekends still happen, but, for the most part, putting "me" at the top of the list ensures that I consistently take very good care of myself.
How do you prioritize yourself amidst the chores, responsibilities, and relationships of your life?